The Nativity

In times like these… of course the holiday season and simultaneously there just happens to be 2 ½ feet of snow outside our door. As it continues to snow, I like to reflect on my life over this last year to see where I have been, and redefine where I am going. Nothing in my life until this point has had such a profound fundamental affect on me until now. The personal story I am about to tell confirms to me how changes in life are not always on the surface. I have been changed form the core of my being and have had the revelation that verifies this. It is an emotional feeling beyond subspace; it is both overwhelming and exciting. Every man asks the age old question, “who am I and what is my purpose on planet earth?” This past year my wife and I have made very drastic improvements to our relationship. They say that it takes 21 days of doing something to make a habit. My wife’s Loving Female Authority over our relationship has gone from habit to lifestyle in just under one year. Even though we had a patriarch structured marriage most of our married life, we had an unspoken understanding that it was my wife who was actually in control all along. I would say that we are now firmly embedded in a Female Dominant relationship 24/7. But never before was it law, until we had our recent growth spurt this year. Before we began our journey, we had no earthly idea what femdom even was. I can proudly say that I learned how to seduce my wife’s dominant nature because of Elise Sutton. It was by divine intervention that I discovered her works. And thank God I did! Because of the positive changes in every area of our marriage, we both agree that there is no turning back to our old ways. That door is closed, and the key is gone. Can I get another thank God for that?!?
Christmas is my very favorite time of year. This year, however, is very different to me because of my changed perspective. It is amazing how you can view a situation one way and have a set opinion, but when you change your viewpoint, everything can appear completely different. Like one of those “hidden 3D pictures” that you see in stores at the mall. It is a random and confusing display of colors and shapes that you just can’t seem to get. Eventually along comes someone that says “Oh, I could not see the picture within the picture either, but some one told me that I was looking at it with the wrong perspective, and they told me what to focus on, and how to look at it. They say “don’t you see it? It’s so simple”. Then out of nowhere, it just appears!
“There it is. I see it” you say.
“It is plain as day. I can see it now! It’s an eagle flying!!!”
Once you see it, you have that good feeling. It is a feeling of satisfaction. Now you don’t feel like you are missing out anymore. Then, once you see it, it is enjoyable to see others come along and try to figure it out. Some just spend a second or two and say ‘who cares, it’s just a dumb picture anyway’. Others look for a few minutes, and give up frustrated; they walk away disappointed shaking their heads. Then there are those that say ‘oh I think I can see it now’, but when you ask them to describe aspects of it, they are really “playing along” and actually can’t really see it at all; they just want to fit in and feel good too. And then there are those that will not leave until they find what they are seeking. They are determined. They have a genuine desire in figuring it out no matter how long it takes. This is me. I’m that way. I have taken this attitude with every aspect of our femdom lifestyle. And I believe that this is one of the reasons we have a successful marriage. The experience we gained in 2006 has essentially equipped us with a solid foundation for the future. And with my newly found perspective I have gained insight into a story I have heard several times every single year of my life since I can remember.

The familiar Christmas story of the birth of Jesus suddenly has all new meaning to me. This year, this well known story has shaken me to the core and runs chills down my spine when I ponder it. Why? Well it’s simple. Someone was willing to help me to look at things from a different perspective. It is a story that I now see in complete awe and wonder. The Christmas story is more amazing that one could ever imagine actually experiencing. Obviously Mary was center stage here, but the saying ‘walk a mile in their shoes’ comes to mind. For me, I can relate to Joseph. Imagine the humiliation he shouldered for the woman he loved. How much faith would he have to have in order to actually believe that she was not pregnant with another man’s child? I mean think about it…how many times has an angel appeared to you out of nowhere? Even if he did believe that this was somehow more than a dream, he would certainly have his doubts; especially when she started to show. Put yourself in his position for a moment. How would he explain his happenstance to anyone? It is impossible. To most, I’m sure they believed that Mary was not faithful to Joseph. And think of how crazy everyone must think that Joseph was to remain devoted to Mary. He had to endure enormous humiliation. Remember that this was a time when all men aggressively and assertively, physically and thus mentally controlled women completely. But this is the great part; the real story is how he put aside his jealousy, his male ego and his pride. He laid it all down in front of his future bride and trusted her completely. He submitted to her word and believed her with all his heart. There is no question that God picked Mary, but he also chose Joseph too. He knew that Joseph was a man so humble; a servant leader, who would abandon his own life’s reputation unselfishly above all things for his bride, Mary. And then the bigger story of course is that His Son literally gave His life in a horrific and violent manner for the salvation of all mankind. So how does all this apply to my life? Well it is what I strive for everyday. It is to be the greatest unselfish servant to my wife. It is to learn to trust her in all things without question. It is to be willing to accept all her lessons in suffering and humiliation. To accept whatever it is that she chooses to use for my benefit, be it instruction, correction, or discipline. It is to be willing. Even to the point that Joseph submitted, surrendering jealous behavior and doubt in order to achieve a higher love with his wife. And finally be the role model for my children. To raise them understanding that there is genuine treasure within all aspects of a woman. Joseph was Jesus’ role model throughout life even though his Son was not of his own flesh and blood. What a responsibility for him. What a responsibility for me. With Joseph as an example, I have the responsibility to care for the most precious gift on this planet. It is my wife whom I love unconditionally with all my being. I still have a lot to learn, but I am on my way! Merry Christmas to you all!

My Ezer

The Bible illustrates the point that God created woman to be the help mate to man; Latin for helper is ezer: which means one who helps from a position of strength and authority.
Husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ showed us how to love one another unconditionally and sacrificially. He laid down his life for all of us. So it is Biblical for a Christian husband to serve his wife as completely as possible, giving his life to that end. Husbands are to be the head of the household or the spiritual leader as Christ is head of the church, so he is to cover his family in prayer and intercession.
Theology and opinion vary greatly as to how and if Christianity and Female Domination is an oxy-moron. The term Female Domination covers much variety and diversity within a relationship between a man and a woman, but they have one thing in common, namely that the man chooses to submit areas of his life to a woman who has the superiority to dominate him in those areas. As such, there can only be one who leads in a relationship or there is discord. A relationship will remain stagnant and die if not addressed. Why is there over 60% divorce rate in the United States, and shockingly 50% within the Christian church? In over two millenniums, patriarchy has ruled because of the male physical prowess, however, generally speaking, there is nothing that indicates a man is better equipped to lead. Nor is it any less biblical, especially when you consider going back further to the Garden of Eden before the fall of man.
Female leadership enables them to function together in a relationship that is mutually fulfilling and successful, and is a lifestyle enjoyed by millions of couples throughout the world. Such a relationship is most meaningful and satisfying in a Christian marriage, where love, trust and commitment to Christ and each other permeates the Femdom aspects embraced by both partners, and to which both freely consent.
We are taught in the New Testament that submission should be mutual and in different areas. And so, for some, the husband submits himself to his wife’s superior ability in the area of, say, finance, and let’s her control that aspect of his life to their mutual advantage. Others will rightly yield many areas of their lives to their wife’s superior ability, and some will seek to increasingly yield themselves completely to their wife in all areas.
The variety and diversity will be apparent in the ways in which the wife is allowed and encouraged to express her superiority. Some husbands, if out of line in an area of marriage, will simply respond to verbal correction from their wife where necessary, to ensure the relationship proceeds successfully. Others however, will need, and accept, firmer correction involving physical punishment, which can be anything from a simple token to severe corporal correction. Various forms of bondage, teasing, and denial are additional things enjoyed by many couples in Femdom marriages.
A husband should be willing to sacrifice himself for his wife. A wife shows her love by disciplining her husband and fulfilling his submissive needs and desires. A husband shows his love by submitting to her and giving himself to her. It is a very beautiful thing. A Femdom marriage is a higher marriage!

Who Are We?

To define the relationship I have with my wife I will post a follow-up excerpt in order to help others understand this so called “fetish” lifestyle we live 24/7. Once we were able to accept our own identities for which they really were, and backed them by research, all things fell into place accordingly. I became comfortable and justified in my submission, she paralleled this same sentiment as the dominant partner in marriage. The excerpt I will post best describes our faith and how our specific relationship has blossomed upon this foundation. Only within the last year thanks to stumbling on Elise Sutton’s website we have been able to define our relationship with the term “Loving Female Authority”. Because of this I will post excerpts of our relationship before, during and after our revelation. For the most part I will stick with posts within a timeline chronologically; however, there are many juicy events that need to be told sooner than later because there is a reality that is quite fascinating in which we live everyday. Please bear with me as I unfold our intimate journey together where my wife is unquestionably my Loving Female Authority.

Patriarchal Marriage

Because we were married so young, and our only examples of marriage were male-led, the first 12 years of marriage were okay. I would say we existed together, and that is about it. We were clearly drifting apart. Specifically years 8, 9, & 10 were pretty tough, and looking back on it today, I am surprised that we did not get divorced. We were taught patriarchy, and tried to practice it. She was vividly more dominant than me from the beginning, and she was suppressing it by submitting to me. As you can imagine the challenges we both experienced due to the in-competencies of my “head of household” mentality. In hindsight, the innate tendency of each person was counterintuitive to what we both knew to be the truth in our hearts which was directly opposed to the way we were living. It was not exactly known at the time but it was certainly there all along.