Christmas is my very favorite time of year. This year, however, is very different to me because of my changed perspective. It is amazing how you can view a situation one way and have a set opinion, but when you change your viewpoint, everything can appear completely different. Like one of those “hidden 3D pictures” that you see in stores at the mall. It is a random and confusing display of colors and shapes that you just can’t seem to get. Eventually along comes someone that says “Oh, I could not see the picture within the picture either, but some one told me that I was looking at it with the wrong perspective, and they told me what to focus on, and how to look at it. They say “don’t you see it? It’s so simple”. Then out of nowhere, it just appears!
“There it is. I see it” you say.
“It is plain as day. I can see it now! It’s an eagle flying!!!”
Once you see it, you have that good feeling. It is a feeling of satisfaction. Now you don’t feel like you are missing out anymore. Then, once you see it, it is enjoyable to see others come along and try to figure it out. Some just spend a second or two and say ‘who cares, it’s just a dumb picture anyway’. Others look for a few minutes, and give up frustrated; they walk away disappointed shaking their heads. Then there are those that say ‘oh I think I can see it now’, but when you ask them to describe aspects of it, they are really “playing along” and actually can’t really see it at all; they just want to fit in and feel good too. And then there are those that will not leave until they find what they are seeking. They are determined. They have a genuine desire in figuring it out no matter how long it takes. This is me. I’m that way. I have taken this attitude with every aspect of our femdom lifestyle. And I believe that this is one of the reasons we have a successful marriage. The experience we gained in 2006 has essentially equipped us with a solid foundation for the future. And with my newly found perspective I have gained insight into a story I have heard several times every single year of my life since I can remember.
The familiar Christmas story of the birth of Jesus suddenly has all new meaning to me. This year, this well known story has shaken me to the core and runs chills down my spine when I ponder it. Why? Well it’s simple. Someone was willing to help me to look at things from a different perspective. It is a story that I now see in complete awe and wonder. The Christmas story is more amazing that one could ever imagine actually experiencing. Obviously Mary was center stage here, but the saying ‘walk a mile in their shoes’ comes to mind. For me, I can relate to Joseph. Imagine the humiliation he shouldered for the woman he loved. How much faith would he have to have in order to actually believe that she was not pregnant with another man’s child? I mean think about it…how many times has an angel appeared to you out of nowhere? Even if he did believe that this was somehow more than a dream, he would certainly have his doubts; especially when she started to show. Put yourself in his position for a moment. How would he explain his happenstance to anyone? It is impossible. To most, I’m sure they believed that Mary was not faithful to Joseph. And think of how crazy everyone must think that Joseph was to remain devoted to Mary. He had to endure enormous humiliation. Remember that this was a time when all men aggressively and assertively, physically and thus mentally controlled women completely. But this is the great part; the real story is how he put aside his jealousy, his male ego and his pride. He laid it all down in front of his future bride and trusted her completely. He submitted to her word and believed her with all his heart. There is no question that God picked Mary, but he also chose Joseph too. He knew that Joseph was a man so humble; a servant leader, who would abandon his own life’s reputation unselfishly above all things for his bride, Mary. And then the bigger story of course is that His Son literally gave His life in a horrific and violent manner for the salvation of all mankind. So how does all this apply to my life? Well it is what I strive for everyday. It is to be the greatest unselfish servant to my wife. It is to learn to trust her in all things without question. It is to be willing to accept all her lessons in suffering and humiliation. To accept whatever it is that she chooses to use for my benefit, be it instruction, correction, or discipline. It is to be willing. Even to the point that Joseph submitted, surrendering jealous behavior and doubt in order to achieve a higher love with his wife. And finally be the role model for my children. To raise them understanding that there is genuine treasure within all aspects of a woman. Joseph was Jesus’ role model throughout life even though his Son was not of his own flesh and blood. What a responsibility for him. What a responsibility for me. With Joseph as an example, I have the responsibility to care for the most precious gift on this planet. It is my wife whom I love unconditionally with all my being. I still have a lot to learn, but I am on my way! Merry Christmas to you all!